498A, Domestc Violence Act, "Quotes worth a Note"

sigmund freud on father.

2010-06-20T23:41:00.001+05:30

"I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as
the need for a father's protection."
-- Sigmund Freud

Related Articles: Essay Topic: My Father [10 Marks]

Mrs Neena Dhulia on Wife Centric Laws

2010-03-20T18:54:00.000+05:30

“The laws favor the daughter-in-law, the police favor the younger woman and all television soaps portray the mother-in-law as an evil monster....

The Indian legal system, unlike gender-neutral Western laws, heavily tilts in favor of daughters-in-law. In reality, the older woman in the Indian family is quite often the silent victim who suffers because she is reluctant to come out in the open....

There is less tolerance among young women these days, they have lofty dreams and do not mind breaking up families to reach their greedy goals.”

- Mrs. Neena Dhulia (Core Member; All India Mother in law Protection Forum)

Uma Challa at her Best

2010-03-13T17:34:00.000+05:30

Who will Ring the Bell and Bat for MEN?

"Boman Irani rings the Bell.
Sachin bats for women as well.
Men may not show and tell.
But abuse by women hurts like hell.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS NOT A GENDER ISSUE!
IT AFFECTS MEN AND BOYS TOO!"

~ Uma Challa (Chief of All India Forgotten Women Association)

Also Read: Ab Kahan Bell Bajaou? ; Poem on MAN

Pratibhatai Patil on Misuse of Wife Law

2010-03-07T23:34:00.000+05:30

"Laws made to prevent women from harassment should not become instruments of oppression,.....The bottomline, therefore, is the fair invocation of legal provisions and their objective and honest implementation.”

- Prathibhatai Patil.

Also Read: Sita Surpanakha

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Ganesh Ganu on 498a wives and courts

2010-02-28T17:03:00.003+05:30

"Today 's 498a wife do not want to take care of family of husband. This 498a Wife marry only with the hope of husband payment sand property of husband family has. at the same time she need all this very fast. Court allowing maintenance to such wife agree that breaking of family is correct. Today Court themselves promoting the Family breaking by granting maintenance. This is the first countrty who is Distributing prizes For breaking indian family or nation too."

- Ganesh Ganu (SIF Nagpur, Mumbai)

Also Read: Domestic Pok's ; Men Gender Badnaam

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Marlin Monroe

2010-02-14T13:36:00.001+05:30

"It's better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone - so far."

- Marilyn Monroe

NyayYodha on Crime Against Women Cells

2010-02-07T23:38:00.000+05:30

"From what I hear, CAW cells are places where a husband is held by the neck and neither is he gets FIR'ed or 498a'ed, nor he can live in peace because the threat of coming FIR is held on his and family. He will get counselling, like how to make peace with adulterous wife :-)

This is just to create nuisance and disturbance... so they will be not in peace just as they don't let husbands in peace.

But asking for more CAW cells to be opened based on this advisory, seems real bad idea. A tiger cannot change its stripes. CAW will remain CAW, it won't become a COW!"

- Yodha

(Nyay Yodha's comment on 498a Misuse Concern expressed by Ministry of Home Affairs that encouraged more CAW Cells and MHA's suggestion on CAW to play counselors between the couples.)

Also Read: Pati Patni Parents Ya Police?

Mumbai Central on False 498a

2010-01-31T14:35:00.000+05:30

MumbaiCentral

I can't believe this. I've been playing the role of the crusading lawyer in a 498A case where the whole bloody complaint is fabricated.

- mumbai central on twitter. www.twitter.com/mumbaicentral

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also read: sita surpanakha

jogeshwarji on law

2010-01-27T21:44:00.000+05:30

A.Sources of laws.
1.Laws do not lie in the pages of books.
2.Laws lie in the minds of men.
3.Pages of books are just alibi.

B.Laws in practice.
1.Facts and laws remaining the same interpretation can be anything as their lordships please.
2. Ignore the facts and laws and prevail the opinion and that is the law in the case in hand.

Jogeshwar Mahanta.

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Shekhar on 498a v/s 302

2010-01-17T19:43:00.000+05:30

1.302 you are the only accused 498A you along with parents, friends, neighbor, pets etc etc are in the accused list.

2.In 302 if you acquitted in false cases then you are a free man.In 498A if you acquitted in false cases you have to pay maintenance (courtesy CrPc 125 ,24 HMA,DV) Alimony etc etc.

3.In 302 you don´t have to worry for your Hose, Car, Flat bank balance etc etc. In 498 A you have to worry for all these (courtesy DV Act)

4.In 302 your council has a less chance to take you for a ride In 498A you are totally depend in your council and he can take you for ride.

5.In 302 if you arrested you will treated as a "someone" in jail and after that there is many other carrier option like politics, Mafia,Don etc etc In 498A you will treated as a 2nd class citizen in jail. No lucrative carrier option likes above.

6.After 302 bail/acquittal you can spend time with your children.In 498A you are not able to even see your children.List goes on and on.

- Shekhar, SIF Member.

Also read: Provoked and Hurt ; Fund for Special Hubby's Jail rather than Funding a Legal Terrorist.

Virag on Mental Attitude

2010-01-10T19:16:00.000+05:30

Actual fight is outside the court, not inside the court and it is a mental game. All they want to do is induce fear in your mind so that you bow down to legal terrorism.

Virag Dhulia.
PRO SIFF Bangalore.

Related Articles: Sita Surpanakha ; Court Cases: Running on a Treadmill

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Ranga Rao N on GrandPa's arrest and AB

2010-01-01T19:09:00.000+05:30

Hi folks,

"Finally my beloved sis-in-law filed the 498a FIR. The beauty of this is that, there were no allegations against my elder brother at all in the FIR, even though he is the hero in the story, just as he is absconding since last one year. But the charges are made on myself, who never-even had a chance to visit their house, since their marriage, on my younger brother, who is away from country altogether, even before their engagement happened and on my parents.

She also implicated my grandmother and grandfather. But real sad part is my grandfather (aged 79 year) has to go to jail. Police kept him in the police station close to a week without producing him in the court. They produced him in court, only after my uncle sent telegrams to the CJ of HYD about the incident.

Now... we are out on bail and need to check out for the next course of action to be taken up.
Thanks a ton to SIF, for the awareness its spreading on this kind misuse of the law. Without SIF members, I could not have thought about anticipatory bail. All the lawyers, I spoke to, told me that FIR is mandatory for filing for anticipatory bail. But, due to the knowledge I gained in SIF forums, I forced the lawyer to file for anticipatory bail, without FIR and got it too."

- Ranga Rao N

also read: 1.Friday Arrests 2.Wife can Rape the Mass with 498a
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Raj News Indore

2008-09-03T11:21:00.000+05:30

"किसी भी कानून का दुरूपयोग एक बड़े जुर्म से कम नही है,
लेकिन महिला हिताशी कानून की समीक्षा करने के लिए सरकार के पास फुर्सत ही नही है।
यही हाल रहा तो परिवार के बिखरने कर आंकडा साल दर साल बढ़ता ही रहेगा।"
-राज न्यूज़ इंदौर।

"Misuse on any law is no less than a big crime, but Indian Government does not have time to review the Women Empowerment laws. If this situation continues for long then the Statistics of Breaking of Indian families would go on increasing every year. "
- Raj News, Indore.

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Coverage: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ksqCFo-AX3g

Alfred Hitchcock

2008-08-03T15:29:00.000+05:30

"There is no terror in a bang, only in the anticipation of it."
Alfred Hitchcock
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A P J Abdul Kalam Azad

2008-06-28T19:16:00.000+05:30

"I believe in Joint Family System...."
~ Dr. A P J Abdul Kalam Azad.
(In an interview on Loksabha Channel)

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A Widow Senior Citizen on Renukaji

2008-06-22T20:57:00.000+05:30

"When we are in tears at these gross injustices...our minister, Renukaji, is laughing. I viewed her interview with Karan Thapar once."

- A Widow Senior Citizen (Victim's Name withheld)
in a very painful personal email from Canada.

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Ram Balak on Indian Law Makers

2008-06-15T19:45:00.000+05:30

"God can lie but not women - this is what your stupid law makers believe."

~ Ram Balak.

Ram Balak was commenting on Rediff Article "All that shines is not Silicon" by Mr.Prakash.
"But I fail to understand why the goverment officials does not raise a word on the assumption that no all women (wives) will lie. Their statements are taken as correct and husband, his sister, his mother, father, school going children are sent to jail. Shame on india and shame on indians. No investigations, God can lie but not women - this is what your stupid law makers believe.
Contributed by : Swarup Sarkar.

Related Article : Women Lie but never get caught!!!

Justice Dhingra on Dowry Givers

2008-06-08T22:03:00.000+05:30

"I consider where these kinds of allegations are made, the police should simultaneously register a case under Dowry Prohibition Act against the parents of the complainants as well, who married their daughter despite demand of dowry"

- Justice Dhingra (Delhi High Court).

Related Article: Dowry Species

James Holt McGavran

2008-06-02T15:46:00.000+05:30

"There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage."
- James Holt McGavran

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Ehsan Qureshi

2008-05-25T20:26:00.000+05:30

"तू मुझसे दुःखी SSSSSSSSSSS
मैं तुझसे दुःखी,
आ दोनों छत्त से कुदें
फिर तू भी सुखी और मैं भी सुखी"

- एहसान कुरैशी का मिया बीवी पर व्यंग।

ज़रूर पढिये : ४९८ अ लगान

Attempted Translation:
"Because of me you are unhappy ssssssss
Because of you I am unhappy,
So let us Jump from the Top,
Then I will be happy and you will be happy"

- Comedian Ehsan Qureshi on a husband to a wife।

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Salman Rushdie on Marriage

2008-05-11T15:21:00.001+05:30

"It's strange, given that I've been married four times, but I actually don't think marriage is necessary, Girls like it, especially if they've never been married before -- it's the dress. Girls want a wedding, they don't want a marriage. If only you could have weddings without marriages."

- Noted Author Salman Rushdie in an interview for ELLE magazine.

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Kangana Ranaut

2008-05-11T15:13:00.000+05:30

"I might as well hire a Gigolo."
- Kangana Ranaut to Times Life (13th Jan 08 Issue)

The Question was "Dont you miss a Man in your Life?"
A: No. Sometimes, like this Christmas, I really missed having a boyfriend. I had no one to make me feel the season. Again, when the Valentine's Day comes, I know I'll feel somewhat bereft. But I am only 20. May be by next valentine's day, I'll find someone. But I only need him to be around for Christmas and Valentine's. I guess I might as well hire Myself a Gigolo."

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Sigmund Freud

2007-03-04T16:43:00.000+05:30

The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What does a woman want?

- Sigmund Freud.

Also read: Alimony - The real monster

Dumas on Women

2007-02-25T16:09:00.000+05:30

"Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them."

-Dumas

India TV Host.

2007-02-18T16:04:00.000+05:30

"...You May also Contact Save Indian Family..."

- The Host of India TV to a 498a Victim online on Phone. (The original quote is in Hindi)

Vaghela on DV act and 498a

2007-02-11T22:40:00.000+05:30

"If I call firebrigade or ambulance or even create false bombscare at airport to catch my flights if I am running late,i could be jailed, But if she files fake DV/498A she gets honour and celebrity status as a first woman to file DV case in town!! and Her lawyer boasts himself as a women saviour!!"

- Vaghela. (SIF Member)

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Bharti on Alimony

2007-02-04T20:24:00.000+05:30

"Yes 21st century is about taking responsibility of for ones well being .I can feel nothing but contempt for those families who deliberately did not educate their daughters to be economically capable based on her capacbilties and then want some other male to support for their own wrongdoings, The society has changed. Let not people who have committed wrong doing of not educating or making their daughters capable go scot free from their own wrongdoing."

- Bharti (needs not introduction)

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Arsha

2007-01-28T22:13:00.000+05:30

"This is a joke my wife told me long back & can you believe I laughed then thinking it was a good joke - little did I knowA little goes to a shop & asks how much is a Barbie doll The shop keeper says American Barbie $5Indian Barbie $10Divorced Barbie $200. The little girl asks why the different prices? Shopkeeper says American Barbie wears a Bikini - so cheaper as less cloth used Indian Barbie wears a saree - more cloth - so more money, Divorced Barbie - comes with Ken's house, car & personal belongings, Now I know - what she was trying to tell me..."

- Arrsha. (498a Victim and a SIF Member)

Sophie Choudry

2007-01-21T19:41:00.000+05:30

BT: Your Take on Infidelity?

Sophie: I know one is Greedy by nature and spoilt for choice, but if you can't even be loyal to the one you love then what's the difference between you and the dog next door?

- Sophie Choudry (VJ, Model and Singer)
in an interview with Bombay Times.

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Babu Anna

2007-01-14T22:09:00.000+05:30

"It is said that 'ignorance is bliss'. But not for a husband. Why I am saying this is because, men are so ignorant about 498A (even today) that theycome to know about their existence only after the wife has fired the legal ammoand police comes at his doorstep. There are cases in which wife/her relatives do not threaten to use 498A, rather they file it straightway. There is no opportunity for the husband to take any preventive action. Only plus point is he has peace of mind till 498A is fired."

- Babu Anna (SIF Member)

Relevant Article: Indian Men's Attitude.

B Saxena (TOI reader) on 497

2007-01-07T22:26:00.000+05:30

Adulterous Women are Offenders too

Times have changed. People don't get very shocked or surprised when they find out that a spouse is involved in an extramarital affair. People have moved with the times but apparently, the National Commission for Women has not, According to Indian Penal Code 497, women cannot be tried of committing adultery. In other words, a woman committing adultery does not amount to a punishable offence while the husband can be punished for the same. Is this not inequality? The government proposed to amend the existing provisions of IPC 497, which are biased, but the NCW turned it down.

"Girija Vyas believes that a woman is always a victim not an offender. But the question is: An Adulterous Women is victim of what? "

B Saxena (sent this view on Section 497 in TOI, 6th Jan 2006 Pg.15)

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A Harassed Husband on his parents' harassment

2006-12-31T22:56:00.000+05:30

"This is live ongoing happening. I am in US since last 6 months with a gap of 15 days to India. I didn't meet my wife's demand of making separate house for her and my son. She gets aggrevated and yesterday she lodged false 498A, 506, 34 and 3&4 DPT (i don't now what is this).

My Father 77 and Mother 70 are taken to police station at 8 PM Thursday for enquiry and they are arrested. They are actually in Mysore Central Jail.

Today we tried to move bail application but prosecutor has put some objection. It is difficult to imagine the condition of my parents 15000 miles away......when can we see an end to this plight and legal terrorism?"

- Naveen (SIF Member).

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Mrunalini Deshmukh on IPC497 (Adultery)

2006-12-27T22:51:00.000+05:30

"The law clearly states that the woman will not be held responsible. I strongly object to that! In this age of gender equality and gender justice, why should we have such a lopsided law? Who said women don't want sex? Perhaps it would not be correct for me to say that the number has risen, but that more couples are coming out with it, Around 90% of such cases head for divorce rather than a reconciliation."

- Mrunalini Deshmukh. (Noted Lawyer)

Source: Cybernoon

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Jogeshwar Mahanta

2006-12-19T20:44:00.000+05:30

"Wife can say thousand lies and those will be accepted as true.
You will say 1000 truths and those will be treated as lies.
Great men in India say that it is a male dominated society."

- Jogeshwar Mahanta (Elder SIF Activist)

"Jogeshwarji was commenting on the Innocence of the falsely accused in Dowry"

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Washington Times on False Feminist Statistics

2006-12-10T23:54:00.000+05:30

Correction
November 29, 2006

Using a chart published in a 2005 U.N. Population Fund report -- which the U.N. agency now says was misleading -- a London Daily Telegraph article published in Nov. 13 editions of The Washington Times incorrectly stated the frequency of wife abuse in India. The agency says that it does not have sufficient data to provide such a figure and that the chart was intended to show that 70 percent of Indian women who were abused by their husbands think such abuse is justified in at least some circumstances.

Relevant Article: Men Gender Badnaam

Swarup Sarkar

2006-12-03T20:35:00.000+05:30

"My residence address is New Delhi .. Plat form no.1 (It is not joke, as per present Marriage LAW, only one safe gurd for Indian Husabnd .. the residence address should be Raliway Station Platform.)"

- Swarup Sarkar (Sr. Save Indian Family Activist)

Related Article: Identity Crises of s(L)ave Indian Family

Arun Jaitley on DV Act

2006-11-28T23:22:00.000+05:30

"Over Legislation is not necessarily a virtue. It often leads to misuse of law."

- Arun Jaitley
(BJP Leader, Former Law Minister & Lawyer)

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Lucio

2006-11-21T23:26:00.000+05:30

"All men are criminals by nature; all women are by their natural constitution incapable of any wrongdoing whatsoever, unless considered as mothers, sisters, sister-in-laws, etc. of men"

- Lucio (New Blood in Save Indian Family)

Relevant Article : 498a Lagaan.

Renuka Chowdhury on DV Act

2006-11-12T22:44:00.000+05:30

TOI: Are there any laws for men who are beaten and tortured by women?

A) Well, the law should be equally applicable. But we didn't bring this law for some women. We brought it as a framework for civil society. And if men are being beaten up and tortured, then they must learn to speak up. I have overwhelming evidence of women who are raped, tortured, beaten up day and night, whose property is taken away, who've been sent to mental asylums or forced to commit sati. The husbands drink and come home and beat them up. Those are reported public demonstrations of what is happening with women. I haven't seen that with men. Yes, if there is a need, law should be equal for both genders. But I can't work on a hypothesis. I need people to come forward and prove it.

- Renuka Chowdhury.

Also Read "498 B and NCM" and "Statistics"

"Come on Guys, Mothers and Sisters Speak Up."

Sam Kinison

2006-11-06T21:00:00.000+05:30

"I don't worry about terrorism. I was married for two years."

- Sam Kinison.

Acknowledgements to Prameet Narula (SIF Activist) for this Contribution.

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Gokul on Domestic Violence Act.

2006-10-28T22:23:00.000+05:30

"Thank you feminazies, thank u lady goons, thank u mindless amazons, thank u one and all who made these draconian laws- men are uniting because of your efforts."

- Gokul P. R. Sr. Activist (Save Indian Family)

Relevant Article here.

Big B

2006-10-22T17:56:00.000+05:30

"....Arrey Yeh Jeena Bhi Koi Jeena Hai Lallu?"

- Amitabh Bachchan as Mr.Natwarlal in Mr.Natwarlal.

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Abhishek Bachchan

2006-10-16T09:25:00.000+05:30

Q: Bombay Times to AB Jr. : Hypothetically, if your 'wife' was 'unfaithful'...

A: "I wouldn't react favourably at all. I'd be crushed as most people would be."

- Abhishek Bachchan.

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I would suggest Abhishek to join the "Save Indian Family Battalion"
-Jinesh

Bizarro

2006-10-11T20:48:00.000+05:30

"I was a wealthy divorce lawyer until a gypsy put a curse on me and gave me a conscience."
- Bizarro, Feb 8, 2001

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Gandhi Bapu

2006-10-02T19:07:00.000+05:30

"You must be the Change you wish to see in the world."

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- Mahatma Gandhi.

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Bharti

2006-09-24T20:59:00.000+05:30

"And frankly to be honest, I have never seen a man demand money but I have seen women demand money from the husband directly infront of judges, police and even the media. If demanding Money from Wife or her family is wrong so then is demanding money from husband is wrong. i.e if dowry is wrong so is Sowry whether law realises it or not Those who demand a diamond ring or gold necklace are wrong."

- Bharti, Sr. Activist, SaveIndianFamily.

Bharti Coins...
D.O.W.R.Y as Daughters Own Wealth Released to You
and
S.O.W.R.Y as Sons Own Wealth Released to You.

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Vinayak

2006-09-17T17:48:00.000+05:30

"...Law says women can take money from me !!..."

- daughter can claim money from father (right to property)

- wife can claim money from husband - plenty of cases and growing !!

- but the moment a man claims even his NORMAL rights...
his b@!!s are to be chopped!!!!!

amen !

- Vinayak (Sr. Activist, Save Indian Family)

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Mahatma Gandhi

2006-09-10T21:19:00.000+05:30

"There is only one course open to me, to die but not to submit to law"

- Mahatma Gandhi.

9/11, 1906. South Africa.

- Relevant Article

Robin Sharma

2006-09-03T18:06:00.000+05:30

"Be the master of your will but the servant of your conscience."

- Robin Sharma

Lord Mahavir

2006-08-27T23:00:00.000+05:30

"A man is seated on top of a tree in the midst of a burning forest. He sees all living beings perish. But he doesn't realize that the same fate is soon to overtake him also. That man is fool."

- Lord Mahavir.

Michchami Dukkadam to all of you.

Stephen R. Covey

2006-08-20T22:03:00.000+05:30

"Dependent people need others to get what they want. Independent people can get what they want through their ownefforts. Interdependent people combine their own effortswith the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success."

- Stephen R. Covey

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Martin Luther King

2006-08-15T13:33:00.000+05:30

"It may well be that the greatest tragedy of this period of social change is not the glaring noisiness of the so-called bad people, but the silence of the so-called good people."

- Martin Luther King.

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(This was attended by 50 affected Families)

Reach in 11 months
1st Meet: 7 Families; 2nd Meet: 25 Families

Kulbhushan on 498a

2006-08-06T21:16:00.000+05:30

"Filing a non-bailable dowry case under IPC 498A is easier than ordering a meal. But while a restaurant can refuse service, the police normally arrest the groom and the in-laws."

"While the Indian media is flooded with reports of dowry-related bride torture, it hardly mentions the horrific cases of suffering husbands at the hands of cunning wives."

- Kul Bhushan.
(A media consultant to a UN Agency, Kul Bhushan previously worked abroad as a newspaper editor and has travelled to over 55 countries. He lives in New Delhi.)

Dave (SIF Member) on 498a Misuse

2006-07-27T22:03:00.000+05:30

"Just because POTA was seen affected to Muslim community,
it was banned and revoked.
Here all religion and communities are facing the issue."

- Dave (SIF Member) on 498a Misuse.

Relevant Article

Zee News on 498a

2006-07-23T18:36:00.000+05:30

"Main Shaadi Karungi, Pati ko Fasane Ke Liye,
Main Saath Phere Loongi, Case Darj Karne Ke Liye,
Main Dahej Bhi Doongi, Pati ko Kaid Dilane;
Rishte Hue Bemel, Yahi hai 498a ka Khel..."

- Crime Reporter (Promo) Zee News.
Telecast: IST 11.00pm (3oth July 2006), Repeat 10.30am, 4.30 pm (31st July 2006)

Attempted Translation (accurate translation not possible):
"I will get Married, to cheat the Husband,
I will take Seven Rounds of Vow, to be able to file a case,
I will give Dowry, to get the husband arrested (if required);
Relations have reached to this Irreworkable Day, because of the 498a."

Marathi Proverb

2006-07-16T15:17:00.000+05:30

"Jasa dista tasa nasta
mahnun jag phasta"

- (old Marathi saying)

Translation:
things are not what they seem and
that is why the world gets conned.

Relavant Article.

Imran Khan on Feminism

2006-07-09T19:55:00.000+05:30

'I always think that one of the biggest mistakes made by the feminist movement is that they have devalued motherhood, My father was in business and away a lot when I was a child; my mother was all-powerful. The unconditional love, the security it gives you in life is irreplaceable. In England I saw that the side-effect of this feminism was that children lost out on this incredible education and security, which no one else can provide.'

- Imran Khan.

Relevant Links
- Mere Pass Maa Hai (also check the comments)
- Feminism

Hitman on Gender Perception

2006-07-03T12:25:00.000+05:30

"We need to get the truth out that males are considered by women and society as DISPOSIBLE, WARM SPERM BANKS, AND ATMs only!"

- Hitman

Relevant Posts:

Sukh ke sab Saathi.

Alimony: A ticket to ride.

Kiran Bedi on 498a Misuse

2006-06-26T12:00:00.000+05:30

"Laws had been provided for the welfare of women. The police need not assist those who misuse or abuse the law meant for the protection of women."

Kiran Bedi On the abuse of Section 498A.
(Kiran Bedi is The 1st Woman IPS Officer of India)

Relevant Article.

Greg Chappell on Distraction

2006-06-18T23:53:00.000+05:30

If you allow yourself to be Distracted by a Dog Barking in the Corner, You will be distracted.
- Greg Chappell.

This is said in context to intentions of people who do not allow you to concentrate in your work. In cricketing terms it was said to the batsmen who should not be distracted by comments and remarks of the bowlers trying to put your moral down.

Back to indianhusbands

Albert Einstein

2006-06-12T09:16:00.000+05:30

"Anyone who doesn't take truth seriously in small matters,
cannot be trusted in large ones either."

-Albert Einstein.

Articles on False 498a

Justice J D Kapoor on 498a Misuse

2006-06-05T11:30:00.000+05:30

‘‘There is a growing tendency among women, which is further perpetuated by their parents and relatives, to rope in each and every relative, including minors and even schoolgoing children of distant relatives.’’

- Justice J D Kapoor.

More Articles on Indianhusbands.

Madhu Kishwar on 498a

2006-05-29T20:08:00.000+05:30

"But this in itself amounts to using the law as a weapon of intimidation rather than a tool of justice. I would condone its use thus, if it were true that lawyers used it judiciously to effect dignified settlements for women with legitimate complaints. But in a good number of cases, least in metropolitan cities lawyers are actively distorting the spirit and purpose of the law."

-Madhu Kishwar on 498a.

Margaret Mead

2006-05-21T23:31:00.000+05:30

"Every time we liberate a woman,
we liberate a man."

-Margaret Mead

Relevant Articles

- Kuch to log kahenge
- Kal phir aayega
- Jaane bhi do yaaron
- United Un-Tied

Mothers Day

2006-05-15T12:01:00.000+05:30

"A mother is she
who can take the place of all others
but whose place no one else can take."

- Cardinal Mermillod

Relevant Articles
Mere pass maa hai
Kal Phir Aayega
Helpline
Lots of love
My dear Blog

She Cried and...

2006-05-07T21:06:00.000+05:30

She cried – and the judge wiped her tears with my cheque-book.
– Tommy Manville.

Relevant Articles:
Aim Apparatus & Procedure
Alimony: A Ticket to Ride
Yeh Duniya agar mil bhi jaaye to kya hai...

88 Antop Hill

2006-05-01T23:19:00.000+05:30

A Broken Marriage is better,
than a Bad Marriage.

- Dialogue from Bollywood Movie "88, Antop Hill."
(Office collegue to the Hero of the movie.)

Escaping a Problem

2006-04-25T20:08:00.000+05:30

The best way to escape a problem is to solve it.

- Anon.

Dicky Fox in Jerry Maguire.

2006-04-18T00:14:00.000+05:30

"Grow up with punches,
Tomorrow is another day"

- Character "Dicky Fox" (Mentor of Jerry Maguire)

Dora Russell

2006-04-09T21:57:00.000+05:30

Marriage laws, the police, armies
and navies are the mark of human incompetence.

- Dora Russell
(English feminist writer, socialist, married to Bertrand Russell, controversial progressive)

SC on Irretrivable Breakdown of Hindu Marriage

2006-04-02T22:18:00.000+05:30

“Ultimately, it is for the Legislature whether to include irretrievable breakdown of marriage as a ground of divorce or not, but in our considered opinion the legislature must consider it as a ground for divorce under the Act.”

“We have been principally impressed by the consideration that once the marriage has broken down beyond repair, it would be unrealistic for the law not to take the notice of that fact, and it would be harmful to society and injurious to the interests of the parties.”

“Where there has been a long period of continuous separation, it may fairly be summarized that the matrimonial bond is beyond repair. The marriage becomes a fiction, though supported by a legal tie. By refusing to sever the tie the law in such cases do not serve the sanctity of marriage.”

The bench at supreme court (comprising of – Justices B N Agarwal, A K Mathur and Dalveer Bhandari.

Relevant Article - "How Hindu was that Marriage?"

Friend on Anti Dowry Law

2006-03-26T21:39:00.000+05:30

When there is "doori" between the so-called "modernized" Indian wife and her husband, she uses 498a (anti-dowry law) thinking that it will help decrease the "doorie". What she does not realize is that 498a is not the "anti-doorie law", it is actually the anti-dowry law (that infact "increases the doorie").

The Supreme Court has already classed the misuse of 498a as "legal terrorism".

- Friend (SIF Member) more on Jaane Bhi do yaaro.

Rebel on Live-In

2006-03-20T21:14:00.000+05:30

"I do not want to criticize live-in relationship but it does give me an opportunity to compare human life and animal life.
Animals do not hold on to the same life partner; they keep on changing as per circumstances and convienence."

- Rebel (of Save Indian Family.) on Indian Husbands Blog.

Benjamin Disraeli (Statistics)

2006-03-13T00:08:00.000+05:30

"There are three kinds of lies:
lies, damned lies, and statistics."

- Benjamin Disraeli

Alimony (Peggy Joyce)

2006-03-05T20:56:00.000+05:30

"Alimony is a system by which,
when two people make a mistake,
one of them keeps paying for it."

- Peggy Joyce

See it to believe it (A Representation)

Walter Savage Landor

2006-02-27T00:23:00.000+05:30

"Many laws as certainly make bad men,
as bad men make many laws."

~Walter Savage Landor, Imaginary Conversations

Also Read 498a Lagaan

Sanjeev On 498a

2006-02-20T00:05:00.000+05:30

'Andha Kanoon'
Kanoon is never Andha' but the makers are definately.

Without thinking the outcome of its implementation,
how come someone can just pass it?

No..No..No.. 'Is India ka to Bhagwaan Bhi Malik Nahi Hai.'

- Sanjeev Kumar Jain.
(SIF Mumbai)

M K Gandhi (Need v/s Greed)

2006-02-12T23:41:00.000+05:30

"Earth Provides enough to satisfy every man's need
but not every man's greed."

- M K Gandhi

(Just in case, if this is perceived as a sexist comment; Justice needs to be done)

Earth Provides enough to satisfy every (wo)man's need
but not every (wo)man's greed.

Louis Brandeis on Respectable law

2006-02-05T22:09:00.000+05:30

"If we desire respect for the law,
we must first make the law respectable."

~Louis D. Brandeis

(Click here to know more)

Constable on Modern Indian Women

2006-01-30T08:54:00.000+05:30

"Abla????.......Uncle kya main aur aap sando baniyan pehenke raste par khade reh sakte hai kya? Nahi na!!! Lekin kya batao… Yeh aaj kal ka aurat log...achche ghar ki woh bhi, usse bhi chhota baniyan pehenkar aur seena taan ke ghumti hain, who to marad log se bhi kum kapde pehente hai. Sanskriti kitab main hi hai. Sharam to marad log ko aata hai. Duty pe sab dekha hai, samaz mein bhi aata hai, par kya karen?"

- A Police Constable to me and my Dad on his way after his duty hours.

(Accurate punch and translation is not possible.)
"Helpless? Uncle will you or me will be able to atleast stand on the street with a sleeveless vest top? No, isn’t it? But what do I tell you about these modern women? that to of good social class, Their dress content to cover the body is lesser than us males and they roam about freely on the streets. Culture is now only in books. We males feel shy looking at this. I see all this on different locations while on duty, one can realize also but what can be done?”

Apna Gorky

2006-01-23T13:00:00.000+05:30

"Guys, 498a and abuse by wife does not kill you ? Does it ?

You need to play the game of WAR. You may have played many video games. Now play game of LIFE. A strong man is the one who has enoromous tolerance and who can handle any tough situation. Imagine Rambo......You are now in Jungle of LIFE......

Gurus among SIF Senior activists will carve a Rambo out of you provided you wish to be one. Once you do that you will not save the Indian Family, but also save the nation from social catastrope.

The war between good and evil will never end. So, whats harm if you learn the martial arts of LIFE ?"

- Gorky
(Save Indian Family)

Socrates on Gender Equality

2006-01-15T21:14:00.000+05:30

Once made equal to man,
woman becomes his superior.

- Socrates

Mahatma on Truth

2006-01-08T21:04:00.000+05:30

"An error does not become truth by
reason of multiplied propagation,

nor does truth become error
because nobody sees it"

-Mahatma Gandhi
(click on the hyperlinks for relevant articles)

Shiv Khera

2006-01-01T23:53:00.000+05:30

"If we are not a Part of the Solution

then we are the Problem."

- Shiv Khera

Apart of the 2 hyperlinks of relevant articles also click here to read 3rd relevant article.

Bible on Enemies

2005-12-25T16:03:00.000+05:30

(Christmas, Bonus Quote)

How does God expect us to treat our enemies?

"Listen, all of you.

Love your enemies. Do good to those who hate you.
Pray for the happiness of those who curse you; implore God's blessing on those who hurt you.
If someone slaps you on one cheek, let him slap the other too!
If someone demands your coat, give him your shirt besides.
Give what you have to anyone who asks you for it; and when things are taken away from you, don't worry about getting them back.
Treat others as you want them to treat you. Do you think you deserve credit for merely loving those who love you? Even the godless do that!
And if you do good only to those who do you good is that so wonderful? Even sinners do that much!
And if you lend money only to those who can repay you, what good is that? Even the most wicked will lend to their own kind for full return!
Love your enemies! Do good to them! Lend to them! And don't be concerned about the fact that they won't repay.
Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will truly be acting as sons of God: for He is kind to the unthankful and to those who are very wicked. Try to show as much compassion as your Father does."

Luke 6:27-36, TLB

Relevant Article

Jesus Said...

2005-12-25T15:49:00.000+05:30

Jesus said,
"Father, forgive them, for they don't know what they are doing."

Dividing his garments among them, they cast lots. The people stood watching. The rulers with them also scoffed at him, saying, "He saved others. Let him save himself, if this is the Christ of God, his chosen one!" The soldiers also mocked him, coming to him and offering him vinegar, and saying, "If you are the King of the Jews, save yourself!" An inscription was also written over him in letters of Greek, Latin, and Hebrew: "THIS IS THE KING OF THE JEWS." One of the criminals who was hanged insulted him, saying, "If you are the Christ, save yourself and us!" But the other answered, and rebuking him said, "Don't you even fear God, seeing you are under the same condemnation? And we indeed justly, for we receive the due reward for our deeds, but this man has done nothing wrong." He said to Jesus, "Lord, remember me when you come into your Kingdom."

Jesus said to him,
"Assuredly I tell you, today you will be with me in Paradise."

- Luke 23:26-43

Marlo Thomas on Gender Equality

2005-12-18T23:19:00.000+05:30

One of the things about equality is not just that you be treated equally to a man,
but that you treat yourself equally to the way you treat a man.

Actress ~Marlo Thomas

Gope Lalwani

2005-12-11T14:58:00.000+05:30

"The Prime Minister of INDIA gives chit to Mr. Natwersingh
his ministerial collegue says:
'Natwar is INNOCENT till proved GUILTY.'
in spite of mounting proof of guilt in Volcker report of food for oil scandal.

His government in INDIA treats and continue to say that victim families
trapped by Indian Police under section 498A are;
"GUILTY till proved INNOCENT".
in spite of unverified contents of first information report filed by police.

Why this Double talk and Double standards?"

- Gope Lalwani (SaveIndianFamily Member)

Anti-Man Pro-Women

2005-12-04T22:30:00.000+05:30

You don't have to be anti-man to be pro-woman.

~Jane Galvin Lewis (Speaking on Feminism)

Shobhaa De- Women are more cruel

2005-11-27T15:57:00.000+05:30

"How many times have I heard women say, ‘I wish he was dead’. The ‘he’ being the husband, of course. The same women have come back weeks later expressing shame, regret and guilt for making such a telling remark.
Strangely, I’ve never heard a man say that about his wife.
Which makes me wonder whether women are more cruel in these matters, or more put upon."

- Shoba De, in Spouse, Chapter 8 (Marriage Most Foul- Shaadi aur barbaadi.)

Mumbaiya

2005-11-19T23:50:00.000+05:30

"Yede Bann ke Pedey khate hai"
- Proverb In Mumbaiya Hindi (Slang Mumbai Hindi)

It means:
"Just Pose as Pathetic, Helpless and Get Free Lunches"

Also Read:
Related Article 1, Related Article 2, Related Article 3, Related Article 4.

Two Wolves

2005-11-13T17:40:00.000+05:30

Two Wolves - A Story to Change Your Life

An Old Cherokee Chief is Teaching His Grandson about Life.

Cherokee: "A fight is going on inside me, It is a Terrible fight and it is between 2 wolves. One is evil- he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt and ego.
The Other is Good- he is Joy, Peace, Love, Hope, Serenity, Humility, Kindness, Benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. The same fight is going on inside you- and inside every other person too."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"

The Old chief simply replied: "The one You Feed."

Aitraaz

2005-11-07T12:52:00.000+05:30

"Hum Aaj Kal Hamesha mard ko hi galat manate hain. Agar Mard Aurat ko thapad marata hain to hum kahte hain ki bada jalim mard hain aur agar Aurat Mard ko thappad marti hain, to kahate hain jaroor mard ne kuch kiya hoga. Hamesha Mard hi galat hota hain yeh manane se mujhe Aitraaz Hain bahoot aitraaz."

Translated into English
"These days we always blame the man!!! If a Man slaps a Women we say how voilent he is!!! But if a Women slaps a Man we again blame the Man (with a benefit of doubt to the lady)stating the man must have done something wrong and he is getting back. I object to this 'assumption' that men are always wrong . I in fact I object to this vociferously."

Quoted by the character, played by Kareena Kapoor in 'Aitraaz'
Contributed by Bharti

Indira Gandhi

2005-10-31T06:50:00.000+05:30

"You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist."

- Indira Gandhi (in 1982)

The dynamic Indira Gandhi, mother of "IPC Section 498A" (Passed in 1983). She was assasinated on 31st Oct 1984.

My blog quotes her, this week.

Read related article "Contradictions Galore" on indianhusbands blog.

Socrates on Marriage

2005-10-23T12:20:00.000+05:30

"By all means, marry.
If you get a good wife, you'll become happy;
if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher."

- Socrates.

also read Sita-Supanakha, Modus Operandi, Henpeceked, Virginity, etc.

Chanakya on Bad wife

2005-10-16T14:36:00.000+05:30

"Varm na rajya na Kurajrajya Varm na Mitr na Kumitrmitram
Varm na shisyo na kushishyashishyo vanrm na dara na Kudardara"

Meaning:
"It is better to have No state instead of having a bad state. Better to have NO friends instead of having evil friends.
Better to have no pupil instead of having bad pupil and
Better to have NO WIFE instead of being the Husband of A BAD WIFE."

- Chanakya.

Pleasure without Conscience

2005-10-09T15:31:00.000+05:30

The things that will destroy us are:
politics without principle;
pleasure without conscience;
wealth without work;
knowledge without character;
business without morality;
science without humanity, and
worship without sacrifice.

--Mahatma Gandhi

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Mahatma Gandhi

2005-10-01T14:00:00.000+05:30

“You can wake a man only if he is really asleep; no effort that you may make will produce any effect upon him if he is merely pretending sleep.”

- Mahatma Gandhi in “My Experiments with Truth” Part 5, Chapter XXX. Page 421.

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http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2005/10/bapu-said.html

Supreme Court on 498A

2005-09-22T17:52:00.000+05:30

Supreme Court of India on 498A

"The object is to strike at the root of dowry menace. But by misuse of the provision a new legal terrorism can be unleashed.

The provision is intended to be used as a shield and not as assassin's weapon.

If [the] cry of "wolf" is made too often as a prank, assistance and protection may not be available when the actual wolf appears."

-The Bench at Supreme Court