Saturday, March 20, 2010

Mrs Neena Dhulia on Wife Centric Laws

“The laws favor the daughter-in-law, the police favor the younger woman and all television soaps portray the mother-in-law as an evil monster.... 

The Indian legal system, unlike gender-neutral Western laws, heavily tilts in favor of daughters-in-law. In reality, the older woman in the Indian family is quite often the silent victim who suffers because she is reluctant to come out in the open....

There is less tolerance among young women these days, they have lofty dreams and do not mind breaking up families to reach their greedy goals.” 

- Mrs. Neena Dhulia (Core Member; All India Mother in law Protection Forum) 

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13 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

"In reality, the older woman in the Indian family is quite often the silent victim who suffers because she is reluctant to come out in open".

I do not agree with above statement. I have seen many criminal mother-in-laws.

1:52 AM, March 21, 2010  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

your agreeing and disagreeing is least important, only your experience is not final.

Collective views, facts and total system has to be considered before giving isolated examples. misuse of law cannot be ignored, protection of innocents have to be taken in to consideration.

- Subhash.

2:01 PM, March 22, 2010  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

why hide ur name? Are u a greedy, selfish, liar, a nautanki and a criminal woman? It shows the wrong teachings of ur mother. You too are a would be mother-in-law.First peep into ur own ineffiencies and short-comings then comment on others. Iam much experienced than u.Such women are a black spot on the society and Indian culture.Learn to respect ur in-laws

2:09 PM, March 24, 2010  
Blogger yodha said...

To what extent some women can do, just read about false rape complaints below:

http://nyayayodha.blogspot.com/search/label/False Rape

And these were not filed by any criminal mother in laws! But criminal women or wives in some cases.

2:19 PM, March 24, 2010  
Anonymous monika said...

th idiot who said, MIL's are criminal, i beleive his/her mother is a criminal herself already. he/she must have witnessed his/her mother do real torture to th bahu.
jab tu suicide kareyga apni biwi sy pareyshaan hokar, tab kahiyo, kaisa laga tujy

2:52 PM, March 24, 2010  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Please correct your thinking and views before posting such a thing here.
Do you have a brother? If yes, then your MOTHER is also a CRIMINAL.

4:13 PM, March 24, 2010  
Blogger Jinesh Zaveri said...

nice replies @ Subhash, monika, Yodha, Anon 1&2 (I would prefer your name for such powerful comment)

thanks for participating.

7:32 PM, March 25, 2010  
Anonymous Sally said...

I don't pretend to be an expert on the "498", and I am a woman so that probably already discounts any further that I have to say, but a question. In your country it is a reular occurence for women to burn themselves alive...why would anyone want to do that?

9:24 PM, April 17, 2010  
Blogger Tim, Lisa, Trenton, and Grant said...

That is actually pretty interesting. Come check mine out.

Thanks

4:53 AM, June 03, 2010  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Another classical example of the gross misuse of Dowry Act (498A) is the case of television celebrity, Suhaib Ilyasi. India's Most Wanted television host was in controversy after the dispute over his daughter Aaliya's custody rose soon after Ilyasi's wife Anju committed suicide on January 10, 2000 in Delhi. While his mother–in-law, Rukma Singh wanted custody of the child on the ground that she had the right under Muslim law, Ilyasi had taken the plea that his marriage with Anju was not solemnized as per the Muslim law but had been a civil affair. His sister-in-law Rashmi Singh came from Canada after six months of her sister's death and filed a complaint with the police against Ilyasi, alleging that he used to torture his wife Anju for dowry.

The case took bizarre turn when Anju's brother Prashant Singh and father Prof K P Singh took a diametrically opposite stand and described the allegations against Ilyasi as ``rubbish.'' Prashant told Express Newsline:`whatever my mother and sister Rashmi are stating against Suhaib Ilyasi is a lot of rubbish. There is no truth in their statement or in the charges filed by the police against Suhaib. If you are holding Suhaib responsible for Anju's suicide, then my mother and sister are also to blame, as they unduly interfered in their family matters.

K P Singh, a retired IIT professor, agreed with Prashant. “My wife and daughter are breaking up my family”. Both Anju's father and brother allege that Rukma and Rashmi have given statements against Suhaib as `they wanted custody of baby Aaliya. When Ilyasi delayed that, they put him in trouble.'

Anju's mother Rukma Singh had changed her earlier statement given in January, 2000, in which she had stated that she did not suspect any foul play by Suhaib Ilyasi. However when Ilyasi refused to give custody of his daughter, she change her statement and alleged dowry harassment against Ilyasi.

It has been alleged for long that Dowry Act (498a) in India is being consistently misused by clever women for extortion and blackmailing. The NCRB records suggest that during 2005-2006, 94% of the 498A, 304B cases filed by women or by her relatives were primarily to settle scores.

Section 498A in itself is, however, not meant to deal specifically with dowry -- it is commonly considered to be a 'dowry law' because domestic violence against a wife related to dowry demands is considered to be within the scope of 'cruelty' envisaged by the Section.

1:34 AM, August 17, 2010  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Please suggest, what I should do to get the divorce from my wife?
First of all, I am a NRI and coming to India often for the prolonged cases is not an easy option.
Secondly, I know as the trend in the market, she might convict me under 498A for Dowry and Domestic voilence to extract as much money she can.
How can I protect myself from my wife and the lawyer whome I am going to hire?

4:25 AM, November 19, 2010  
Blogger ALUMNI PSIK FK UGM said...

like this

11:55 AM, December 05, 2010  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I would say ... Indians should start using technology etc to get proof of their innocence. We could use detectives help, etc to get proof.
Whenever you sense first instance of trouble, try gathering proof.. like recording conversations, spy cams and even using professional detectives. These measures would help in the long run...

12:17 AM, March 25, 2011  

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